I became a stockbroker in my mid 30s, I thought I knew about money. After all, I had gone to college and was in the business school. My eyes were opened, I knew next to nothing. I realized that money was no different than a hammer, it's just a tool. And like any tool, it can be used constructively or destructively. I learned that nobody can pay me except myself.
A little off topic... here's a link to my favorite song about money. I love the line "when a man finds the courage to keep his cash, some romance is bound to start." Enjoy!
Thank you Tom! The truth is that everyone has their own perception and beliefs about money, and often, these have nothing to do with the actual state of affairs. P.S. Thanks for the song!
Great point that one can have an excruciating work schedule, acquire more money and have much less time to enjoy the life deserved! Enjoying life should be the ultimate goal. So many people fall into this trap!
Yes. Some just run after money and don't understand what it is for, and some despise it (because they don't have it, and they don't because they despise it). The story with money is full of misconceptions, contradictions, and fog...
JR Ewing (American tv character on Dallas) sought power, control & wealth all his life. However, his biggest monumental fear was losing it all! Not sure he ever enjoyed life! Even though that’s fictional, it can happen in real life!
I had a coaching client who had amassed a fortune that the next three generations could not spend. However, her fear of losing everything has completely neutralized the meaning of everything she has. She didn't enjoy anything. She was in a more difficult emotional state than a homeless person. She told me that she firmly believes that with big money comes big care. She felt it was the price she had to pay for everything she had.
Great post. I think a lot of doubts stems from reiterating a lot beliefs we're taught from an early age and even in our daily lives. Do we avoid these people who tend to believe that the world is empty or scarce? Do we help them? Or perhaps understanding and empathizing with their perspective may help? What do you think?
We should cleanse ourselves of the beliefs that limit us. Some we have acquired through life, some we learned in early childhood, and some are collective and considered truths. Then, we need to replace our limiting beliefs with supportive ones. Let's strengthen ourselves in supportive beliefs and live them. The most important thing is that we are strong in supportive beliefs and that it is clear to us why we believe that.
We should not impose our opinions on anyone because that never achieves the desired goal. When people see that we live better, they will ask us how.
Empathy is a beautiful human quality but should be distinct from identification because if we don't manage our empathy properly, the result may be that instead of one being "unhappy" and the other helping him recover, we get "two unhappy."
As for the people in our environment who have attitudes that "darken," my opinion is this:
When we firmly believe, other people's opinions don't matter. It's like when you have an umbrella: It doesn't matter if it rains or not. However, if it rains constantly, it can become tiring to carry an umbrella, and you are sure to get a little wet. I hope you understand me.
I became a stockbroker in my mid 30s, I thought I knew about money. After all, I had gone to college and was in the business school. My eyes were opened, I knew next to nothing. I realized that money was no different than a hammer, it's just a tool. And like any tool, it can be used constructively or destructively. I learned that nobody can pay me except myself.
A little off topic... here's a link to my favorite song about money. I love the line "when a man finds the courage to keep his cash, some romance is bound to start." Enjoy!
https://youtu.be/OjGO57ycZbM?feature=shared
Thank you Tom! The truth is that everyone has their own perception and beliefs about money, and often, these have nothing to do with the actual state of affairs. P.S. Thanks for the song!
Great point that one can have an excruciating work schedule, acquire more money and have much less time to enjoy the life deserved! Enjoying life should be the ultimate goal. So many people fall into this trap!
Yes. Some just run after money and don't understand what it is for, and some despise it (because they don't have it, and they don't because they despise it). The story with money is full of misconceptions, contradictions, and fog...
JR Ewing (American tv character on Dallas) sought power, control & wealth all his life. However, his biggest monumental fear was losing it all! Not sure he ever enjoyed life! Even though that’s fictional, it can happen in real life!
It happens regularly.
I had a coaching client who had amassed a fortune that the next three generations could not spend. However, her fear of losing everything has completely neutralized the meaning of everything she has. She didn't enjoy anything. She was in a more difficult emotional state than a homeless person. She told me that she firmly believes that with big money comes big care. She felt it was the price she had to pay for everything she had.
Essentially, she had nothing.
Sad, isn’t it?
Yes!
Great post. I think a lot of doubts stems from reiterating a lot beliefs we're taught from an early age and even in our daily lives. Do we avoid these people who tend to believe that the world is empty or scarce? Do we help them? Or perhaps understanding and empathizing with their perspective may help? What do you think?
Thank you so much, Arlo!
We should cleanse ourselves of the beliefs that limit us. Some we have acquired through life, some we learned in early childhood, and some are collective and considered truths. Then, we need to replace our limiting beliefs with supportive ones. Let's strengthen ourselves in supportive beliefs and live them. The most important thing is that we are strong in supportive beliefs and that it is clear to us why we believe that.
We should not impose our opinions on anyone because that never achieves the desired goal. When people see that we live better, they will ask us how.
Empathy is a beautiful human quality but should be distinct from identification because if we don't manage our empathy properly, the result may be that instead of one being "unhappy" and the other helping him recover, we get "two unhappy."
As for the people in our environment who have attitudes that "darken," my opinion is this:
When we firmly believe, other people's opinions don't matter. It's like when you have an umbrella: It doesn't matter if it rains or not. However, if it rains constantly, it can become tiring to carry an umbrella, and you are sure to get a little wet. I hope you understand me.